Lie: It’s up to us to determine the size of our family.
Truth: God is the Creator and Giver of life. Anything that hinders or discourages women from fulfilling their God-given calling to be bearers and nurturers of life furthers Satan’s schemes and aids his efforts.
Lie: Children need to get exposed to the “real world” so that they can learn to function in it.
Truth: Our task is not to raise children who can fit into this world or merely survive in it but to bring up children who will be used by God to change the world.
Lie: All children will go through a rebellious stage.
Truth: Parents cannot force their children to walk with God, but they can model godliness and cultivate a climate in the home that creates an appetite for God and is conducive to the spiritual nurture and growth of their children.
Lie: I know my child is a Christian because he prayed to receive Christ at an early age.
Truth: Parents who assume their children know the Lord, regardless of their lifestyle, may be giving their children a false sense of security and may not be praying appropriately for their children.
Lie: We are not responsible for how our children turn out.
Truth: Parents have enormous influence in molding the lives of their children by their example, their teaching, and their leadership.
Psalm 127:3-5 calls children a reward. I’ve seen the gift they are to a couple who couldn’t have children and adopted. The world often portrays the “you can have it all” lie to women, encouraging them to pursue a career and put children lower on their priority list. For a woman who wants to have more children and her husband thinks they have enough already, I would advise to wait on the Lord and let Him bring about what is best. This is an area that a couple should be in agreement upon before God.
Cultural influences that seem to be especially harmful to young children are violent TV shows and video games. One of the ways that Christian parents can do to try to whet their children’s appetite for God’s Word is to have a family devotional time that is fun and enriching, where Bible stories come alive.
Our culture has made it easier for people to profess faith without showing any true signs in their life by talking about grace and emphasizing forgiveness over repentance. It’s not wise to assume that just because someone grew up in a Christian home that they have made the decision to follow Christ for themselves. The evidence will be seen in the fruits that they show and the life that they live.
There is a balance between a parent’s responsibility and God’s provision. We must trust God with our children. Deuteronomy 6:4-9 and Proverbs 4:11 talk about being role models for our kids.
Prayer – ask God for wisdom and grace to parent and be an influence and role model, for God to intervene in each child’s life, for protection from harmful influences and a love for righteousness, and for God’s purposes to be fulfilled in the next generation.